Adam and Eve – Play Through The Bible – Week Two

 

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For week two of Play Through The Bible we are learning about the story of Adam and Eve, also known as the Fall of Mankind. It’s a story that for some reason isn’t covered in The Rhyme Bible Storybook for Toddlers, but I decided it was too important to pass up!

If you haven’t read the introduction to this series yet I recommend going here. For week one’s plans you can go here.

 


Week Two – Adam and Eve

 

Focus Point

Adam and Eve disobeyed God.

Story Time Tips

  • We read “A Snake in the Garden” starting on page 18 of The Rhyme Bible Storybook.
  • Focus on remembering the names of Adam and Eve.
  • Focus on the main point of Adam and Eve disobeying God. Don’t try to explain every little nuance and implication of the story, it’s a lot even for us grown-ups to comprehend!
  • Use a sad voice for the last page when Adam and Eve disobey God.

Activity

Play a modified version of “red light – green light.” Gather a few small balls and put them on a chair. Pretend the balls are fruit and the chair is the tree. Stand by the chair and have your child stand a little ways away. Face your child and say “God said: ‘Don’t eat the fruit!’” and then turn around. While you are turned around your child will try and sneak up to the fruit. Jump around again and say “God said: ‘Don’t eat the fruit!’” When you do this they have to freeze. Once they get to the “fruit”  you chase them out of the “garden.”

Discussion

Parent: “Who are these people?” (Point to Adam and Eve)

Child: “Adam and Eve”

Parent: “What did God say to them?”

Child: “Don’t eat the fruit!”

Parent: “Did they obey God?”

Child: “No.”

Parent: “That’s right. It was very sad.”

Daily Craft

Day One – Adam and Eve Coloring Page

http://makingartfun.com/pdf/adam-and-eve-coloring-page.pdf

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Day Two – Adam and Eve Puppets

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Materials needed:

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Glue cut-out pieces together in the shape of a person.

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Add a simple face and use markers or crayons to color the people.

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Glue onto the popsicle sticks to make Adam and Eve puppets. You can add more detail to the face or cut out some hair and glue it on there, but we decided to keep it simple!

Day Three – The Tree and The Fruit

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Materials needed:

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Use the dot marker to make fruit on the tree top. Then, make two cuts opposite each other on the top of the toilet paper tube and slide the tree top into the toilet paper tube base.

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Bring yesterday’s Adam and Eve over for a little pretend play, of course.

Day Four – The Sneaky Snake

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Materials needed:

  • Paper plate
  • Markers (or crayons)
  • Pen or pencil
  • Scissors

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Use the pen or pencil to trace the outline of a spiraled snake on the paper plate. Obviously, from looking at my non-artisic rendition, it doesn’t matter if it turns out a little wonky! Basically you just want to start with a head shape at the edge and slowly work your way around and in to the middle of the plate. After you trace it, carefully cut it out.

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Take a moment to revel in the fun, boingy-ness of the snake once cut out.

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Decorate the snake with the markers, adding two little eyes on the head. If you want you can also cut out a little strip of red construction paper and glue on a tongue (we didn’t).

Day Five: The Garden

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Materials needed:

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Take one of the blue pieces of paper and fold up the bottom about an inch.

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Take the second piece of blue paper and fold it in half (hamburger way). Then, fold in each short side about an inch.

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Go back to the first blue paper and draw (or have your child draw if they are able) a garden scene. We kept it pretty basic! You will want the folded piece folded up towards the back.

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Color in your garden scene.

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Take your folded piece of paper and glue it to the back of the garden scene like shown in the picture. You want it to be a little bit above the fold crease on the bottom. This is going to hold your scene up.

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Put some glue on the bottom of the fold on the garden scene paper. Glue the scene to the long edge of the green piece of paper.

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You now have a lovely little garden scene. Perfect for a little Adam and Eve pretend play.

Extra Resources

There were a few songs about Adam and Eve on youtube, but we didn’t particularly care for any of them. Do you know any good ones?

 


 

I hope you enjoyed week two of Play Through The Bible. Again, I’d love to hear from you! Leave a comment below or use the hashtag #playthroughthebible on Twitter or Instagram! 

 

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CREATION – Play Through The Bible – Week One

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Hooray! Welcome to our first week of Play Through The Bible! And of course, what else would you start with than with The Beginning? You guessed it, this week we are studying creation. I hope you enjoy this week of activities – it’s super simple and super fun. Don’t forget, I’d love to see how you’re using this curriculum so leave a comment or use the hashtag #playthroughthebible. If anything below is unclear or you have any questions please don’t hesitate to ask. If you haven’t read the introduction to the series yet I recommend you go here.

So, without further ado… week one!

 


Week One – Creation

 

Focus Point

God created everything.

Story Time Tips

  • We read “A New World” beginning on page 6 of The Rhyme Bible Storybookand “God Made Everything” beginning on page 8 of The Rhyme Bible Storybook for Toddlers.
  • During story draw attention to each thing that is being created. For example: turn the lights on and off when light is being created, point to the sky, pretend to be a bird, make the animal noises, rest at the end, etc.
  • After the first few readings, pause at certain points and let your child say the next word. For example on the first page of the story in The Rhyme Bible it reads: “The world was once as dark as night, But then God said….” At that point my son would thoroughly enjoy shouting out “LIGHT!”

Activity

Go for a walk in your yard or neighborhood. While doing so, point things out and ask “Who made this?” If it’s not a nice day to play outside, you can also do the same thing while looking through a book.

Discussion

Parent: “Who made this?” (Point to something you’ve talked about before)

Child: “God!”

Parent: “Who made you?”

Child: “God!”

Parent: “That’s right he made you and loves you very much.”

Daily Craft

Day One – Light

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Materials needed: 

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Use glue stick to glue yellow strips of paper  onto the black paper. They are the light appearing out of the darkness. So ridiculously easy,  I know, but every toddler I’ve done it with loves it just the same!

Day Two – Sky

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Materials needed:

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Fluff cotton balls a little bit by slightly pulling them apart. These will make some nice puffy clouds. Then, use the glue stick to glue them onto the blue paper sky. If your glue stick isn’t doing a very good job at securing the cotton balls you can also use Elmer’s glue.

Day Three – Plants and Land

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Materials needed:

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Glue brown rectangle (the tree trunk) onto the bottom of the blue paper.

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Use the dot marker to make leaves on the tree. If you don’t have dot markers (they can be purchased cheaply at the dollar store) feel free to sub green paint and a paintbrush or even markers.

Day Four – Sun, Moon, and Stars

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Materials needed:

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Decorate the sun, moon, and stars with the crayons.

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Glue the shapes onto the black paper.

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Day Five – Animals and Me!

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Materials needed:

Cut pictures of animals out of magazine (you can do this beforehand or have your child do it depending on their age/skill level). Glue the animals and picture of your child onto the paper to create a collage.

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We hung our pictures on the wall (they are actually in a different spot now, but still up!). This makes it really easy to continue to talk about and reference the creation story. K loves to go down the line naming off each thing on the pictures he made.

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Extra Resources

Creation Song via youtube

 


 

Well, that’s it for this week. Again, I’d love to hear from you! Leave a comment below or use the hashtag #playthroughthebible on Twitter or Instagram! 

 

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*INTRODUCING!* Play Through The Bible: A Toddler’s Introduction To God’s Story

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I am so excited! It’s finally time to begin our toddler bible study series. It’s going to be called “Play Through The Bible: A Toddler’s Introduction To God’s Story” and I wanted to take today to give you a little introduction before we jump in later this week. First, I want to explain a little of my focus with this curriculum.

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My Focus

I first got the idea to write this curriculum because I wanted something that would allow me to introduce my toddler son to the Bible at his level in a simple, basic, and engaging way. I searched for what I was picturing in my mind, but couldn’t find quite what I was looking for. So, we started forging our own path. I wanted to share what we’ve been doing so that you, too, can begin to lay the foundation of God’s word in your child’s heart and mind. My focus in this curriculum is three-fold:

#1 Simple

When I started doing activities with my toddler son, I learned early on that it was best to keep things simple. There was no telling how long his attention span would last and I didn’t want to take longer to prepare the activity than he took to actually do it. Plus, sometimes as adults we forget that what may seem simple to us can be exciting and new for a little one. There will be plenty of time for elaborate activities as my son gets older, but for now I’m keeping it simple. Because of this, I am writing this curriculum with simplicity in mind. You can easily prep the crafts in 5-10 minutes beforehand and none of the activities call for crazy supplies. I wanted this to be something so simple and easy that no matter how crazy things were that day, if you could spare 15 minutes you would be able to have Bible time that day.

#2 Basic

Our little toddlers and preschoolers are very concrete thinkers. If I tried to explain all the complex implications of the various Bible stories to my son, I would probably be met with a blank stare and he wouldn’t be very interested because it wouldn’t make sense to him. For that reason, I’ve chosen to keep the focus of this curriculum very basic. While a toddler may not be able to grasp all the theological ramifications of the fall of mankind, he can remember the names Adam and Eve and the very basic points of the story. Once this basic foundation is laid, it can be then built upon. Adding more information and depth in each year to come. In this way, my son both grows up with God’s stories as a part of his life and he grows into them as he continues to mature in his understanding of God’s Word

#3 Engaging

Simply put, I want this curriculum to be perfectly in tune with the way toddlers learn best. Through stories, songs, hands-on crafts, and simple activities. In one word: play. Mr. Rogers sums it up wonderfully: “Play is often talked about as if it were a relief from serious learning. But for children play is serious learning. Play is really the work of childhood.” Doing the activities in this curriculum means that your child will be engaged, playing and having fun – not even realizing that God’s Word is being hidden away in his or her heart.

Children’s Bible Choice

The next thing I wanted to go over is our choice for a children’s Bible. For the purpose of this study we are using one main children’s Bible and one supplementary children’s Bible. The main Bible we are using is The Rhyme Bible Storybook for Toddlers and the supplementary bible we are using is The Rhyme Bible Storybook. We started with using the original Rhyme Bible Storybook, but found that although we enjoyed reading the stories in it, some of them were a little above toddler level when we tried to really dig into them. Because of this, we switched to the toddler version. This will be the main Bible we are going to use, although we may add here and there from the original version or read both stories when applicable. For example, the second week is the story of Adam and Eve, however, this story is not found in the toddler version of this Bible. So, we will read it out of the original version instead.

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Now, if you are following along with us, you can definitely use whatever children’s Bible is your family’s favorite. I can’t guarantee the activities will match up perfectly, but I don’t think it would be that big of a problem. However, both of the Rhyme Bibles can be bought very cheaply on Amazon and I highly recommend checking them out!

Method

My plan is to release the upcoming week’s plans on Thursdays so that you will have plenty of time to look them over, prepare, and make any changes that you want. The basic set up is that you will read one story every day for a week (we normally read at breakfast time). I’ve found that this method works great with toddlers because they usually love repetition. I’ve also found that aspects of the story my son didn’t quite grasp the first time we read the story, he is really starting to get by the end of the week. There will be an activity that you can do (again, the same activity for each day that week) and a craft for each day.  There are a couple other things included, totaling six different sections, so let’s go over those really quick so you’ll know how they work!

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Focus Point
This is the bottom line. The point to repeat over and over. This is what you want them to remember. For example, week one’s focus point is “God Created Everything.” So, that week, you really want to drive home God as creator and all the activities will support that.

Story Time Tips
In this section, I’ll give a couple tips to make the story time fun and engaging. Whether it’s ideas to make the reading more dramatic or things to look out for that might be difficult for your toddler to grasp, if it’s something that helped us, I’ll pass it on to you.

Activity
The activities in this section are fun and simple. The usually require either no supplies or things you have around your house already. They use play and kinesthetic learning to further reinforce the concepts and vocabulary learned in the week’s story.

Discussion
This is a unique section that came about due to a discovery I made while talking with my son. I realized that he likes to have the same conversations over and over and over again. He asks me the same questions and likes it when we talk about familiar topics. I decided to use this to my advantage and started having short conversations about the story we were working on, always keeping them about the same every time. They almost have a catechism like feel to them. I’ve found that doing this really helps him remember the main points of the story. I usually start the week incorporating only part of the discussion I hope to have, slowly building up to the whole thing by the end of the week. He is always so proud of himself when he answers my questions!

Daily Craft
Like i’ve mentioned before, these crafts are very simple. You can usually prep them in just a few minutes. They are also simple in the way that they are very do-able for little toddler hands. Sure, they will need a little help here or there, but for the most part, they should be able to do them with a lot of independence.

Almost every week, one of the crafts is a link to a downloadable coloring page. Doing the coloring page is great for those super busy days where you don’t have time for a full craft. We usually do them on Monday’s when I’m catching up from the weekend still. I’ve found it is a great introduction to the story, mainly focusing on just remembering the names of the characters.

One more note about the crafts: they aren’t meant to be perfect works of art. Their purpose is more for the experience and the learning they provide. Plus, toddlers really don’t care about making their crafts perfect. For example, in the fourth week we make a tent for Abraham and Sarah. Does the tent end up looking super pretty? No way. However, my son thought it was awesome and the 30 minutes of playtime afterwards where he used some of his toys to play pretend with Abraham and Sarah was way better then the most awesome tent could have been.

Extras
The last section is for miscellaneous resources. I’ll add whatever extra things we’ve found to add to that week’s story. Often it will be songs or other books that go along with the story that week. I’d also love to hear what extra ideas and resources you have discovered – if you leave them in the comments I’ll add them to the list! Another thing you can do is use the hashtag #playthroughthebible on Instagram or Twitter to share how you are using the Play Through The Bible curriculum. You can also connect with me on Facebook. I can’t wait to see how you make this study your own!

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Well, that’s about it! Look out for the first week of plans coming this Thursday. If you don’t want to miss any, be sure to enter your e-mail address below to get weekly updates!

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6 Tips for Making Bible Story Time Come Alive for Your Toddler

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If you’re like me, you want to get your child started reading God’s word as soon as possible. Maybe you even started reading to your peanut while he or she was still in the womb. Then, you read to that squishy newborn as you rocked and snuggled. However, along the way something happened. That little babe you used to hold in your arms, who would be captivated just by the sound of your voice, grew up. Sitting still is a thing of the past now – you have a toddler.
So, how do you get a squirmy toddler to sit still long enough to have a daily Bible story time? Today, I’d like to share six tips I’ve learned as I’ve tried to introduce my son to reading the Bible. Hopefully, some of them will help as you impart God’s word to your little one.

1. Make it a routine

Toddlers thrive on routine. Although we’re not always as consistent as I’d like to be, we normally read K’s bible story during breakfast. Once we were able to get that routine established, every breakfast time (and often at lunch as well) he would be begging for story time to start. The routine helps build the anticipation and also gets them started on making Bible reading a daily habit.

2. Choose a good children’s Bible

There are seriously TONS of kids Bible’s out there. Some are good. Some are not so good. There are also some that are great, but are above the level a toddler is able to understand. I can’t speak for all the Bibles out there, (if you don’t have a Bible you already like, I’d recommend looking through Amazon reviews or heading to the local Christian bookstore to page through the options) but here’s what we do have experience with:

  • The Beginners Bible— Someone gifted this bible to K at his baby dedication just before he turned one. We read from it for a long time. The only problem I have with this children’s Bible is that, personally, I feel like they couldn’t have made it more boring if they had tried. That said, it is a popular choice, it has a lot of stories in it, and it works for a lot of people.
  • The Beginner’s Bible for Toddlers - This is a board book version of The Beginner’s Bible, with less and shorter stories. While we do read from this one occasionally, it would not be a good choice if it is the only Bible you have because it skips two very important stories – the fall of mankind and the death of Jesus!
  • A First Bible Storybook by Mary Hoffman – We just got this book recently and haven’t had a chance to really try it out. The stories look good, but a little long for a young toddler.
  • The Jesus Storybook Bible by Sally Lloyd-Jones – This Bible is really great. You can find reviews on it all over the blog-o-sphere since it boomed to popularity (try here, here, or here). We have read stories from it from time to time, however, it is above the level of a toddler. We will probably use this Bible as a transition to a real Bible once K is a little older.
  • The Rhyme Bible Storybook by LJ Sattgast – This is our favorite Bible for toddlers. I have used this one with children other than my son and always it does a great job of grabbing their attention. Something about the sing-song of the rhymes just works with toddlers. I highly recommend this Bible. It can be purchased very cheaply on Amazon.
  • The Rhyme Bible Storybook for Toddlers by LJ Sattgast – We just ordered this one (for $0.25 + shipping!),so haven’t had a chance to look into it too in depth. The original Rhyme Bible Storybook has worked great for us, but I wanted something a little more simplified for us to use for some of the more complicated stories. I think this will fit the bill perfectly.
3. Read the story with some drama!

I am probably one of the worst actors ever, but when I read Bible stories to my son, I try my best to use tone, inflection, and excitement to bring the story to life. When the story says God was sad, slow down your speech and talk with a sad voice, frowning. When things are getting exciting, pick up the pace, talk a little louder. Use hand motions, too. When the story talks about God creating the sky big and wide, point to the sky and motion how big it is. Your excitement will naturally be contagious.

4. Read the same story multiple times in a row.

I’m sure by now you’ve noticed that toddlers love repetition. They want to eat the same foods, wear the same clothes, play with the same toys, and read the same books over and over again. Use this to your advantage and read the same story every day for a week. It may seem boring from an adult’s perspective, but toddlers love reading things they are already familiar with. It really helps them become familiar with the story and remember the details better.

5. Take some time to discuss what you are reading.

For us, I ask that my son try not to interrupt while I’m reading, but after I’ve read the page we often pause so he can ask questions or point out things on the page that interest him. We will also often flip back through the entire story after reading to look at the pictures again while we summarize what happened. I will also ask him questions to see what he can remember. During the first few times we’ve read the story, I usually try to keep to simple questions that require “yes or no” answers or ask him what the characters names are. The more we’ve read the story, the more I see what he can remember.

6. Add an element of play.

Young children learn best through play, so it’s a great idea to add that into your story time. It’s very easy to do as well! Just take an element of the story and make it into a game or act it out. When you play through a story, you have a great opportunity to reinforce themes and vocabulary from what you just read. For example, the other day K and I read the Noah story. Afterwards, I grabbed a laundry basket and some stuffed animals and K pretended to be Noah. He piled all his stuffed animals into his “Ark” basket and jumped in with them, having a blast. The whole time we did this I called him Noah, cementing into his brain through play the name of the person God told to built a boat. We also talked about obeying God as he put the animals in the ark and pretended together that his boat was in the stormy flood. He had tons of fun and was learning God’s truths all at the same time!

Coming Soon!

Are you looking for more ways to help your toddler begin to learn basic biblical truths? Then you are going to love what I have coming up soon! Me and my little helper have been working hard to write and test out an exciting toddler Bible study curriculum and we are so excited to share it with you!

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Here’s a sneak peek at how the study is going to be set up:

  • It will be released weekly, mostly likely on Thursday, so you will have plenty of time to prepare for the coming week.
  • It is being designed with busy parents in mind. Everything about this study is simple, easy to prepare, doesn’t require tons of crazy craft supplies, and doesn’t have to take a ton of time to do. All while being set up perfectly for how toddlers learn best!
  • We will be going through an entire children’s Bible, following God’ story from beginning to end.

I am so excited for this series to start! K and I have been having a blast reading, learning, and playing our way through the Bible, and I know your toddler will too. I knew I wanted to create this study because, although there are a ton of great resources out there, I was having a hard time finding something that was designed specifically for toddlers being taught at home by their parents. There are a lot of great resources for individual stories, or church preschool curriculums, but not a lot that would take a toddler through the entire Bible, without requiring me to take little bits from here and there around the internet.

So, if you’ve found yourself in a similar spot, wondering what the best way is to go about imparting basic biblical truths to your littlest learner, this study is for you. It will be debuting soon, so if you don’t want to miss out, be sure to enter your email address below to get updates sent directly to your inbox. I would be honored to have you and your toddler join us on this journey through the Bible!

My Husband Travels for Work: 10 Tips for Transitioning Home

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After spending an extended amount of time away from my husband over the last two years, I’ve taken some time to reflect on the process of returning to doing life together again. Today I’m guest posting over at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum about what I’ve found are my top ten tips to make this a smooth transition.

I’d love it if you would come join us over there!

My Husband Travels for Work: 10 Tips for Transitioning Home

 

 

 

No Fuss Potty Training – How We Did It

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For months leading up to our big move I would tell him, “when we move we are getting rid of the diapers and you are going to wear undies!” I would quiz him: “what are we doing with your diapers when we move?” Once we did move, I knew I didn’t want to spend any more money on diapers, so together we watched the last basket slowly dwindle. I told him, “I’m not buying anymore. When they are gone, you are going to wear undies.”

Well, that day came sooner then I was ready for. I was still unpacking, the house was a disaster, and I had a to-do list a mile high. I seriously contemplated buying just one more pack of diapers and sneaking them into the basket, hoping he wouldn’t notice. But, I didn’t. I decided to stick to what said and we went for it – ready or not! He averaged one (or maybe two) accidents for a couple days and then he was good to go. It hasn’t even been two weeks now and he is accident free and able to go run errands, play by himself in his room, and go potty all by himself when he needs to.

So, how did I manage to so quickly and easily potty train my 2 1/2 year old? Well, I am sure a lot of it has to do with his personality, but I thought I would share a few things that I think really helped make the transition from diapers to underwear easier. Before I delved into potty training I read pretty much every potty training article I came across. I loved seeing how everybody did it and what worked for them and what didn’t. I hope that you are able to pick out a few things from our experience to make potty training that much easier for you!

Here we go…

1. We started using the toilet early. 

Before K was born, I happened to read about this really neat thing called elimination communication. If you’ve never heard about it, it is basically a method of learning your baby’s signals early on and helping them eliminate using the toilet instead of a diaper. You can read more about it here. While we didn’t do full-blown EC, we did use some of the principles off and on. I taught K how to use the potty when he was just a tiny baby, and had him use it fairly regularly while he was a baby/young toddler. I think this really helped because it meant that using the toilet wasn’t a completely foreign concept to him when he made the transition to being potty trained. I’ve known of a lot of kids who are scared of the toilet or reluctant to use it and seeing it as a normal part of their life from early on can really help avoid that.

2. We knew he was “ready.” 

This is a tip you will hear over and over again and it can be a hard one to actually put into practice! What does it even mean to be ready? For us, ready meant two things. First, that K was ready to be taught to use the toilet and, second, that he was able to use the toilet by himself (pulling his pants down, etc). When K was 18 months old we decided to give early potty training a shot. It went really well for about a week and then he lost interest. I think in many ways he could have be ready then, but it would have taken a lot more effort and time on our part to see it through. Because of that, we ended up putting it on hold. Due to life circumstances and the schedules we were on, it didn’t make a lot of sense to try again until this summer, after we made a 14 hour move. At that point, he was definitely ready!

3. We talked about it constantly.

Little kids understand and remember a lot more than we often give them credit for. Months before our move I started talking to K about how he was going to wear undies after we moved. I reinforced it whenever I could. We would talk about it to Grandma, to daddy, to anyone who would listen! We said we were going to throw away the diapers. We said he was going to be a big boy. Almost every time I changed his diaper we would talk about it. We watched as his last basket of diapers dwindled to nothing, and when I asked him if he wanted to put on some underwear, he was totally ready and excited.

4. We didn’t make a big fuss about it. 

Other than talking about it a lot, I didn’t make a big fuss over potty training. If you remember, I was still unpacking and had a lot to do! There was no three day potty training boot camp. I didn’t give him salty snacks and load him up on juice so he would pee more. There were no charts or treat jars. I didn’t contain him to one room. I didn’t drag him to the toilet every 15 minutes. Basically, I just put some underwear on him and we went with it! I put a little potty in the living room and he had a potty seat insert in his bathroom upstairs. I eventually put another little potty in his bedroom too. For clean-up, I kept it simple with disinfectant wipes for the potties and a bottle of vinegar and some rags to clean up accidents.

5. We used positive language to avoid power struggles. 

Somewhere between 1 1/2 and 2 years old, K started really resist me taking him to the toilet. I decided to not push the issue and only took him when he wanted to go. I knew that I didn’t want to have that same problem with potty training, so when I read about someone who didn’t make their child use the bathroom during potty training, I knew that was what we needed to do. The only times he was required to use the toilet were before bed and before we went out somewhere. Other than that, I would just frequently remind him to “keep his underwear dry” and to “use the toilet if he needed to go potty.” I think I said those things a couple thousand times! If he had an accident, I just helped him get to the toilet quickly and said “uh oh, make sure you go on the toilet next time!” Keeping the language positive really helped. I wasn’t forcing a stubborn toddler to do anything and because we had talked about it so much and I encouraged him a lot, he was excited to do it on his own.

6. We went with a big(ger) reward.

Instead of giving him treats every time he used the toilet, I told him early on that once he was keeping his undies dry I would buy him some super hero underwear. Super heroes were a new obsession, so it was the perfect reward to help give him just a little extra motivation. When he would have an accident, I would remind him about the reward as encouragement to keep trying. When he finally was staying dry we went to the store and picked some out. He was so excited and proud of himself!

7. We trained him to go on his own. 

This was probably one of the most important things for me. I didn’t want to have to remind him constantly or make him use the bathroom every 30 minutes. I wanted him to recognize he had to go and just go all by himself. What can I say? I’m just lazy like that! So, from the beginning I had him do as much as he could by himself. I do usually ask him if he needs any help when he says he has to go and I help him wipe a lot of the time, but for the most part he does go all by himself.

I really couldn’t believe that the potty training transition went as smoothly as it did. I must admit, I was a little nervous! However, it just goes to show that potty training doesn’t have to be all horror stories! Hopefully some of what we did can help in your potty training endeavors. If you have any questions or tips of your own, please share them in the comments below! 

And… Keep your fingers cross for us. We have the ultimate potty training test coming up this weekend – a 16 hour car trip!

When I Don’t Want My Child To Obey

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My blood was boiling. It felt like the tension inside was going to break me into a million pieces. The last string of patience I could muster snapped.

My thoughts whirled.

“Why does this always have to happen?”

“Can’t I just have a few minutes of peace?!”

“That is it!”

Words spewed out of my mouth like poison.

Anger. Frustration. Bitterness.
Hurtful words. Shaming words.
Little eyes wide open, taking it all in.

Finished with my lecture, I collapsed at the kitchen table. I regained control of my racing pulse and pushed back the tears. My heart felt like it was a million pounds.

What had I done?

I opened my Bible and tried to pray. But I was overcome with remorse. I gained obedience, but at what cost?

It was then I knew that I didn’t want obedience like that. I didn’t want to teach my child (or any child) that you obey the person who hurts you. I want my child to obey me because of my calm authority as his mother, not because I know which words will cut at his heart.

I love my child and I want it to show. Even when I am frustrated.

And I must admit, I am far from perfect. The life I lead is often a messy one. However, I’m trying my best to take my parenting lessons from the best Father of all. The One who is slow to anger and abounding in mercy. The One who never shames, but holds out abundant grace and invites me to sin no more. The One who is ever just and lets me reap the consequences of what I sow, but who never deserts me along the way.

This is the Father I want my child to know as well.
So, I swallow my pride and I ask for forgiveness from the little one that I hurt, pointing him to the One who will never fail him.

 

Have you had a messy moment this week? I hope you will join me in casting my burdens at the feet of a Father who cares.

Great Picture Books For Toddlers Volume 2

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My son loves to read. I’ve never met a young child with such a long attention span for listening to picture books! Because of this we go through a lot of library books each week. Some are great, but a lot are duds. The purpose of this series is so we can pass on our tried and true favorites to you and your budding reader. You can read more about how I select a picture book here and you can get the first list here.

Here’s the second ten. I hope you enjoy some of these books as much as we did. Don’t forget to leave your favorites in the comments!

 


 

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Sheep in a Jeep – by Nancy Shaw   This is one of many in Nancy Shaw’s sheep series. Those silly sheep are always getting themselves in trouble! Some of them we’ve liked better than others, but Sheep in a Jeep is definitely a favorite!

 

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The Water Hole – by Graeme Base   This book is amazing in so many ways. First, it is a great story of the importance of water to animals and the planet. Second, it shows animals from all over the world. Third, the pictures are absolutely gorgeous!

 

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Llama, Llama, Red Pajama – by Anna Dewdney  K eats up every book in the “Llama, Llama” series, but this one is our favorite. It’s so fun to read and as an added bonus you get to add in a little lesson about throwing tantrums.

 

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Turtle Splash: Countdown at the Pond – Cathryn Falwell  This books was the bedtime story of choice for a long time. It is great for learning animals, numbers and counting, and paying attention to details. The pictures are beautiful as well.

 

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The Little Blue Truck – by Alica Schertle  Combine animals and trucks and you have a sure-fire winner for any toddler! Add in the lesson on friendship and you have a book that stands the test of time.

 

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The Missing Mitten Mystery – by Steven Kellogg  This book was right on the edge of K’s comprehension level, but it kept him interested because of its level of engagement. Any book that has a question or an element of mystery keeps him coming back for more.

 

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Mouse Paint – by Ellen Stoll Walsh   Even though K doesn’t quite yet comprehend mixing two colors together to get a new color, he still loved naming all the different colors in this book.

 

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Potty – by Leslie Patricelli  Simple, but oh so perfect for a toddler. This short little book is super funny, but also gets them really thinking about what it will be like to ditch the diapers. My son likes to mimic what the little kid in the book does.

 

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The Little Mouse, The Red Ripe Strawberry, and The Big Hungry Bear – by Don and Audrey Wood – A cute story about a mouse keeping his strawberry safe from a bear. My son loves the part where it goes “BOOM BOOM BOOM!” and always giggles at the silly things the mouse does to try and protect his strawberry.

 

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No, David! – by David Shannon   The pictures are the shining start of this book, depicting all the trouble little David gets into with his mother. However, in the end the message is clear – David’s mommy loves him no matter what. (Note: there are other books in this series and, except for, Oh, David, I don’t care for them much. There gets to be a point where David’s antics stop being silly and cross the line to just being a bad example.) 


 

There you have it! Ten more awesome picture books for toddlers. Have you read any of them? Please share your recommendations in the comments below!

Why I Stopped Telling My Son “Be Careful”

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“Be careful!” The words spilled out of my mouth without any thought as my son attempted to navigate some rough terrain in the backyard. I must have said it at least a half-dozen times already in the half hour we’d been playing outside.

It was then that I knew I had a problem.

I had fallen into a bad habit and it wasn’t helping either me or K. I knew I needed to make some changes in the way I was communicating with him. Here are four reasons why I knew the phrase “be careful” needed to be virtually eliminated from my vocabulary.

1. It didn’t work.
Even though he heard me say it all the time, I doubt my rambunctious, fearless toddler really understood what it even meant for him to “be careful.” It didn’t communicate any practical information.

2. I didn’t want “be careful” to become synonymous with “don’t do that.”
If it was something I really didn’t want my son to do, I needed to get to the point and clearly communicate my expectations.

3. It eliminated his ability to learn to weigh risk.
At this point he doesn’t really understand why standing on a foot tall rock is less risky than trying to scale the side of a five foot trailer. However, I’m not always going to be there to tell him he should be careful. He needs to learn how to weigh a situation for himself and see if the benefit is worth the risk.

4. It didn’t teach him how to overcome obstacles.
I don’t want my son (or any other future children) to be driven by fear – whether it is in the small things now, or in the bigger things later in life. That said, fear does serves a purpose, it lets us know that we probably need a plan for overcoming obstacles in our way. “Be careful” doesn’t teach him how to climb a rock wall and it won’t encourage him to chase big dreams later in life either. K is naturally an adventurer now and I want him to be able to stay that way even as he grows up.

5. It removed his ability to face real life consequences.
Pain is a good reminder to not make the same mistake twice. Although sometimes pain is the obstacle we need to overcome, a lot of the time it can remind us to plan out a better strategy next time or just avoid something altogether.

A New Strategy

So, with these things in mind I’ve adopted a new strategy. When the words “be careful” are threatening to pop out of my mouth I try to evaluate using these 3 questions:

1. “Is this something he can figure out on his own?”
If that’s the case, I shut my trap.

2. “Does he need help figuring out this challenge?”
If so, instead of giving a generic “be careful” I try to give specific instructions for what he needs to look out for. For example: “stay away from the edge of the deck, if you fall it will hurt you;” “hold onto the railing as you go down the stairs, it will help you avoid tripping;” “that branch is dead, if you pull on it it could break off and hit you;” or “if you are going to swing that stick, stand away from where other people are standing.”

3. “Is this activity risky enough that, should he fail, he could be seriously injured?”
If not, I usually give him a warning that he could get hurt by what he is doing and then let him learn the consequences for himself. If it is, then I either stop him or give him more assistance to lessen the danger.

I’ll admit it, even with these steps, “be careful” still pops out of my mouth here and there, but I am trying to break the habit!

What do you think? Do you find yourself saying “be careful” or another phrase too much? Share your experience in the comments. 

 

The Expeditioners by S.S. Taylor – Middle Grade Fiction Review

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THE EXPEDITIONERS
by S.S. Taylor

Summary

Kit West’s map-maker father died under suspicious circumstances while on an Exploring mission, leaving him and his brother and sister orphaned and alone. However, Alexander West did not leave his children empty handed. When a mysterious man with a clockwork hand gives Kit a book from his father, the adventure begins for the three siblings.

My thoughts

The Expeditioners is one of my favorite books that I have read recently. S.S. Taylor’s rewriting of history paints a fascinating world for the West children. Their adventure is full of twists and turns and packed with excitement. With both boy and girl characters, this book will appeal to any young person who loves reading adventure stories. And not only that, but it makes a great book to read together. Just be warned, you might find yourself sneaking in reading time alone to finish the book yourself – it’s that hard to put down!

Discussion Points

  • The Expeditioners seamlessly weaves in moral issues surrounding the conquest of new lands. This can lead to great discussions in regards to the true history of Native Americans and other displaced peoples. Also great for discussions on greed and power.
  • Kit’s younger sister, M.K. is rough and tough. She drops a 2 or 3 “damns” during the course of the book.
  • In this world the government is corrupt and not to be trusted. Various members of government agencies are the antagonists. At one point, M.K. knocks out two government workers so that the kids can escape.

Bottom Line

Grab this book at the library! You won’t regret it!